Today is Sunday, it’s 1:22 p.m., and I’m sitting at my little local café called ‘Screwbean’, sipping on a white peach tea and I am deathly ill. (Okay, not actually deathly, but dramatic flair never hurt anyone, right?)
I’ve spent the last hour bouncing between chapters of a few self-help books because apparently, one isn’t enough when you’re in the mood to overthink your life. One quote really stuck with me, though—it’s about seeing yourself as you are (how you appear to others)
Here’s the quote: “Newton’s Third Law of Motion—STAY WITH ME, IT WILL MAKE SENSE—for every action, or force, in nature, there is an equal and opposite reaction.”
Now, take that and apply it to people. It’s saying that when you truly see someone—like, really see them for who they are—you get the same energy in return. They see you as you truly are, too.
As I sipped my tea I couldn’t stop thinking about this. It hit me that understanding someone else often reveals pieces of ourselves we didn’t even know were there. It’s like holding up a mirror you didn’t realize you needed
Now obviously I want to try it and experiment so i’m sitting here thinking of how to do this so I came up with a few ways to do this
1. Observe Someone Without Judgment- do this by listening without trying to respond just see where they take the conversation , pay attention to their tone, body language and expression , afterwards reflect o
n what stuck with you and how that reflects your values.
2. For someone trying to step out of their shell; Start a Small, Honest Conversation or Share a Compliment That Feels Real- find something to compliment someone about or ask what’s been making them smile lately (could literally be your barista ) Notice how it feels to be genuinely curious and enjoy whatever conversation comes out of it or understand what you admire about that quality you complimented and see how their reaction makes you feel.
Lastly number 3. Write About Someone Who Inspires You —whether it’s a close friend, a family member, or even a public figure—write about what makes them unique. Reflect on how those traits resonate with you and why they feel meaningful. As you write, you might notice parallels between their strengths and aspirations you have for yourself, offering insight into the qualities you value most
I’ve done enough yapping today, so I thought it’d be fun to take a breather and write about someone I really admire. This will be my take on suggestion #3. And hey, I hope it might inspire you to approach your connections with a little more intention—seeking not only to admire others but to let their light spark something meaningful within yourself.
Love, P